Today I threw up after a periode of 1 month, without doing it, as a result of the bulimia. And it is so freaking anoying.
And in this situation, I get frustrated, because I lost control, and now the thoughts are back. And I want to control it all.
But I can’t.
Instead I need to ask the question, what can I do now?
I can’t turn back time, I can’t take away the thoughts. But I can control whether or not, I will do it again. And try to prevent it. And that’s all I need to do.
Every time we get frustrated we need to ask ourselves the question, what can I do? And what can’t I do? Which takes away a lot of the frustration.
Imagine that you are at work. You can’t focus, because you have money issues, your have family problems etc. While you are working, you can’t change or fix these issues. What can you do?
You can keep working, so you will get some money. You can’t fix the problem in your family until you get back home. So focus on working, because at this time that is all you can do.
A lot of our frustration is empty thoughts, because we use energy on stuff we can’t change. Instead we need to focus on the stuff we actually can control.
What can you control?
All the best